{"id":33644,"date":"2023-02-18T12:27:20","date_gmt":"2023-02-18T12:27:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/divorcestories.info\/2023\/02\/18\/coping-with-divorce-you-got-punched\/"},"modified":"2023-02-18T12:27:20","modified_gmt":"2023-02-18T12:27:20","slug":"coping-with-divorce-you-got-punched","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/divorcestories.info\/2023\/02\/18\/coping-with-divorce-you-got-punched\/","title":{"rendered":"Coping with Divorce: You Got Punched"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Have you ever done a kickboxing class? I\u2019d highly recommend it as a tool for coping with divorce. When I was getting divorced<\/a> several years ago, punching air or punching a bag really did it for me. It helped me get out all my anger, frustration, and even sadness. Punching made me feel strong and powerful and resilient. I actually still do kickboxing classes \u2013 on the Mirror.<\/a><\/p>\n

But while going through a divorce<\/a>, I can still remember the times when I felt like someone just punched me. <\/em>Times when I felt like I just got a sharp right hook to my cheekbone, or a swift uppercut to my ribs.<\/p>\n

I have to say, there were times during my divorce<\/a> when given the choice, I\u2019d probably have picked the physical blow versus what was actually happening to me emotionally.<\/p>\n

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\"Maria<\/a><\/p>\n

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Here are the moments in divorce that seriously feel like you just got punched, along with suggestions on coping with divorce:<\/h2>\n

Any of these sound familiar? Remember that you\u2019re not alone in coping with divorce!<\/p>\n

1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/b>The moment you and your spouse have the conversation that ends with, \u201cOkay then. It\u2019s done.\u201d \u2013 meaning you are going to move ahead and get divorced.<\/b><\/h2>\n

This can feel shocking, surreal, and numbing. Even though you have been talking about it, it\u2019s now official, and now you just don\u2019t know what to expect. It is both incredibly sad and scary. Just breathe. Deep breaths. It\u2019s going to be OK, just not right this minute.<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <\/b>The day you come home and all his stuff is gone.<\/b><\/h2>\n

The day my ex was planning to move out, we decided that I would take the kids to the community pool, and then go to a friend\u2019s house for dinner. When we walked in, our house looked half empty, and I had to hide my tears from my 3 and 5 year olds. It was awful. You could see nails on the walls where the pictures had been hanging, empty spaces where furniture was gone, and knick-knacks off shelves. It was a very empty and sad feeling. I\u2019ll never forget it. My advice in coping with divorce in this regard would be to put your kids to bed and then let yourself cry it out. Hard.<\/p>\n

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\"Grace<\/a><\/p>\n

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