Being Married: What We Miss And Don’t

Being married can be wonderful. Even though I ended up divorced, I really really liked some things about being married. There are also some things that I truly truly do not miss about being married.

The list below was made by a good friend of mine and I, who after a couple glasses of wine decided to write down everything we missed about being married and everything we didn’t miss.

Here you go: What Two Women Miss about Being Married and What We Don’t Miss

What we miss about being married:

1. Falling asleep with my leg wrapped around his

2. Having someone to zip my dress for me

3. Knowing you’re with someone who made a serious commitment to you in front of God.

4. Have someone to bounce off a bad day at work.

5. Having a date for every function

6. Family nights

7. Being called “Mrs. So and So.”

8. Having a designated driver if I drank too much

9. Having unprotected sex

10. Sending out a family Holiday card

11. Traveling as a couple

12. Knowing certain things about him that no one else knew

13. Making love with the father of my children

14. His friends and family (most of them.)

15. His sense of humor and all the little things that only we would laugh at

16. The smell of his cologne

17. His foot rubs

18. Our own language

19. Feeling really secure, safe and loved

20. HIM

What we don’t miss about being married:

1. Picking up tons of dry cleaning

2. Cooking food I don’t like to eat

3. Having to have sex on-demand

4. Feeling like I did everything, including changing every poopie diaper and waking up for every middle of the night feeding

5. Cleaning up after him constantly

6. His mail all over the counter

7. Having to watch what he wants every night or feeling guilty about watching what I want to watch

8. Bickering and arguments that usually turned into silent treatments

9. Having to hide tears

10. Having to hide shoes and other purchases

11. Not feeling loved or appreciated

12. Falling into the toilet bowl in the dark because the seat was up

13. Frequent obligatory get-togethers with his friends and family.

14. Him not wanting to be with my family and giving me a hard time about it.

15. Arguing about finances

16. Endless kitchen counter crumbs

17. Him tapping his razor on the sink every morning

18. Feeling inadequate, being criticized all the time

19. Not feeling really secure, safe and loved

20. HIM

Editor-in-chief: Jackie Pilossoph

Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers.

The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.